As we spend an entire day celebrating us I wanted to write a letter to all the moms out there.
As I started to write this post, I started to think about all the women who have enlisted in this job called motherhood.
The moms who are doing their best everyday and are living a selfless life to do what’s best for their kids.
The moms who fought through infertility or a loss of a child.
The moms who are doing it on their own.
The moms who are staying home to raise their kids and so desperately need time (or even 10 minutes) away.
The moms who are working full time and would do anything for a full day home with their kids.
The moms who are still struggling with the idea that they need to do it all.
The moms who are shaming themselves for not being enough.
The moms who still haven’t gotten a full night of sleep.
All of us. The name “mom” isn’t easy to come by.
This post goes out to all the moms to remind us that motherhood is a precious gift.
Every year as we near this day I begin to think about how lucky I am to be a mom. Every year I thank God that I was chosen to become a mommy to my two children.
I start to think about how fast time is going. It’s true that time really does go quicker when you become a mom.
I try to slow down. I try to sit and take it all in because in the grand scheme of life I want to look back and remember this time with my kids.
I don’t want to remember the things that always seem to make the list like laundry, dishes, work, chores, I want to remember the MOMENTS with my kids.
Being a mom is by far the most rewarding “job” there is but it is far from easy when we talk about the day to day.
It can be overwhelming to try and “do it all.” For some reason we tend to think we have to do just that.
There are days when I countdown until nap time and wonder how I am going to make it.
I get caught up in everything I *think* I need to do or begin to shame myself for not doing enough.
Then there are the days when I get caught in my to do list and don’t stop to savor the moments.
I don’t stop to take the time to appreciate this stage because I have to do (insert a million things).
But the truth is that the stage where they want to snuggle and play on the floor won’t last forever. They won’t always want us with them all the time.
The innocence and the purity of our children won’t last forever. No matter what we do, this season of life is fleeting.
I seem to find myself rushing through the days. I don’t always stop to soak in the little things because god forbid I allow the dishes to sit in the sink or don’t wipe the table after we eat. That might mean I was failing.
I catch myself on my phone checking in to see what’s happening in the social media world instead of painting with my daughter.
I find myself telling my kids “I have no time to play” because I have so many other things to do. What does that even mean?
The chores are more important than playing legos?
In the moment, maybe. But when I stop and think about it no. Just no.
If I have learned one thing in my 3 short years as a mom, it’s every moment counts. Every stage, every conversation, every milestone. It all matters because the only thing we can’t take back is time.
Instead of worrying about fitting into our jeans at 8 weeks postpartum or giving ourselves a pat on the back for keeping a clean house let’s focus on what matters most…them. Our kids. Our time with our kids.
In the grand scheme of life, no one cares about laundry piles or the dishes or the size of jeans we are wearing. These things don’t make us better (or worse).
They (the chores) can wait. It can wait. Everything else can wait.
It won’t matter in 10 years that we chose dishes over snuggling in bed with our kids. We won’t look back on our life and remember anything about the house or the chores. In fact we will likely not give a damn about our weight or how quickly we were able to lose our baby weight.
Motherhood can be difficult because it’s not always an instant gratification. Between diapers, whining, tantrums, potty training, throwing food, and missed naps there are definitely days I want to call it quits.
We all do. We all have those days. It can feel extremely overwhelming to maintain “supermom” status at times which is why aiming for “balanced” status is a waste of energy.
Right now, it’s about them. This is the time.
At the end of the day I was chosen to be a mom for a reason. And so were you.
Just know that whatever season you are in, you are doing enough, your kids love you and you are appreciated.
I recently asked the MomBeyondBaby community to contribute one word that describes how they feel about motherhood. I share this post for them and to highlight this thing we call motherhood. To all of the moms….